My (old) landlords keep trying to come into my room unannounced and I really can’t think of a more foolproof way to see me indecent. Is lounging around in your room in comfy clothing/underwear a new generation thing or what? This is also my 10,000th post, lmao.
I remember the days when games were about worlds you could explore and about being good, and not about who's got representation and gender this and sexuality that. I miss those days.
Those days miss you, too. I recently found a yellowed letter under one of the floorboards, and it was addressed to you and signed by those days with a tear-stained kiss of lipstick.
Meanwhile, in the present, those of us who work in the industry and who are—amazingly—able to consider more than one idea at the same time, will continue to create good games about worlds you can explore AND occasionally talk about inclusivity.
If you are feeling compassion fatigue, I think it might be okay to sit out those discussions, at least until you get your strength back. While it will be tough not having you available for close consultation, somehow we will soldier on.
“Sociologists use the term “androcentrism” to refer to a new kind of sexism, one that replaces the favoring of men over women with the favoring of masculinity over femininity. According to the rules of androcentrism, men and women alike are rewarded, but only insofar as they are masculine (e.g., they play sports, drink whiskey, and are lawyers or surgeons w00t!). Meanwhile, men are punished for doing femininity and women… well, women are required to do femininity and simultaneously punished for it.”—
I think the ‘women are required to do femininity and simultaneously punished for it’ bit sums up 90% of sexism in one sentence. (via shashirosa)
what??? lmao. this is so wrong. women are not rewarded for being masculine. women are sometimes favored for being “one of the guys” i.e. not being emotionally complicated, but they’re still expected to appear feminine. women get murdered and assaulted for dressing and acting “masculine” or for not conforming to gender. also i’m trying to figure out how being a lawyer or surgeon is masculine, lmao.
feminine things are devalued because they’re associated with women, not because they’re feminine. femininity is entirely a construct anyway. the basis of any bias against “feminine” things is bias against women, pure and simple. women can’t escape from sexism by being masculine because sexism is about men hating women, not about men hating femininity.
Also the favoring of masculinity over femininity isn’t a “new” kind of sexism. The whole purpose of femininity is to make women subordinate to men, so of course men hate and devalue femininity, they always have, it is the polar opposite of everything they want to be. Masculinity has to comprise all the strong, bold, dominant traits that femininity doesn’t because men want to be as unlike women as they possibly can, so they absolutely do want women to be feminine. Men hate women who reject femininity (this includes heterosexuality, that is the building block of gender) because men hate women who refuse to accept their assigned role of inferiority to men. People forget that gender is more than simply clothing and hobbies.
I was Lighter Than Jesus, I said all the right things in all the required conversations, and I solved his Dustil problem in the best possible way, but when he wouldn’t talk to me on Virmire I looked it up and apparently I didn’t visit the planets in the right order to trigger a romance with Carth.